The Dinner Table: The Heart of the Home

Each night, my family gathers around to eat dinner and discuss the day’s events.  This, unfortunately, is a tradition that is dying off in a society of 2 income households and irregular working hours.  Many new homes do not include “dining rooms” as a part of floor plans anymore.  Contractors and parents, alike, should realize the importance of the added 400-1000 square feet, as this area is the “heart of the home.”

The tradition goes as follows:  1.  Children often help with preparing dinner, as appropriate.  2.  We do not start eating until EVERYONE is seated.  3.  We go around the table and identify (2) unique things we were grateful for that day.  4.  We don’t leave the table until everyone is finished eating.  5.  We talk openly about anything (without food in our mouths), but don’t interrupt.

Our family tradition is not involved, but it is respected and appreciated.  We get a lot of information from our kids about potential school issues, things they are interested in, and ideas to strengthen our family.  We also reflect on our blessings of the day.  The children really appreciate the routine, as evidenced by their doing the same when at a friends home or reminding us of the procedure when we might be temporarily distracted. 

During this time, we communicate with our children.  Not only do we talk about their day, but we (as adults) discuss ours, identify problems and even argue our position on certain topics.  We also establish standards for eating practices and manners.  It is important children to observe appropriate communication techniques (even debating/arguing) and the dinner table is the perfect place for this practice.

Do you have an established tradition in your home you would like to share?